The fifth season of Living Smart will explore integrity, ethics, civility, parenting, music and science literacy and one of the most relevant topics as far as I am concerned will be covered by Dr. Bruce Perry M.D/PhD who is one of the top childhood trauma and development specialists in the country. Why do I say that?
Let's face it listening to the news has become more and more difficult. Thousands of Americans are losing their jobs, anxiety is at an all time high and many in the political spectrum only criticize but come up with few if any solutions to the financial crisis. Whether we agree with what the new administration is doing to solve the problem or not, we hope (if we are sane, there are those who want it to fail) and pray that it works. Putting labels on what is going on does not help. Is this too much government? Too much pork? Too many pet projects? I am going to be asking instead every month, does it work? Who is doing the right thing? What is working and what is not? I don't care if the projects are called "socialist or market driven" Do they work?
We have to get back to holding our officials and OURSELVES accountable, living in integrity, Making smart decisions based on facts not emotions.
Dr. Perry talks about keeping ourselves sane through relationships and how important these are in the lives of children and ourselves. The fact is Americans are becoming increasingly lonely and isolated. We are more reconnected than ever through technology but lonelier than we have ever been. A recent study by Duke University researchers found the number of people whom the average American discussed important matters dropped from three to two in the past few years. The number of one person households has also been increasing steadily since 1940, when only 7 percent of households had one resident. Today more Americans are living alone than ever in our history.
I was born in Houston but grew up in Latin America where extended families and friends are always around. I know that Health and Happiness is closely tied to social connections.
In sum, It is fine to be self reliant, at times individualistic and self motivated and driven, but we must be aware of social disconnection. We are social animals, we need each other and in hard times like these, believe it or not it might be easier and more essential than ever reconnect. Try it, you might stop thinking about the economy and that in itself makes it all worthwhile!
Monday
Books I am reading in times of "Crisis"
As you know I have to read for my work and my soul every day. I interview people all the time and try to read books cover to cover before I talk to them. One of my upcoming interviews on Latina Voices is Abel Garcia who wrote "Market Yourself back to the top!"
Basically Garcia, who has a lot of experience as a headhunter says we have to look at ourselves as a product or service so we have to come up with a dynamic personalized marketing program. (I guess this is better than being an object!) All I can say about this book is that it has useful information. I don't know if it works and frankly I don't want to find out, but seriously, any information that can help us stand out, I welcome.
Another book I have been reading to keep with international relations and the US role in the world is The Post American World. The author, CNN correspondent Fareed Zakaria originally from India, ends the book with a quote I am paraphrasing and I feel says a lot about the greatness of America. "For America to thrive in this new and challenging era....it should be the place that is inviting, and exciting to the young student who enters the country today as it was for me."
(This of course applies if we don't make it harder than it already is for legal immigrants to come to America, which is not the case in the latest stimulus package. )
America, I agree with Zakaria is the most universal nation in the world. (I have lived in 7 different countries and visited 50 and from my own personal experience this is a fact)
We are a nation of immigrants where people can mix, work together and share common dreams. We have values that the rest of the world envies but we have to get back to those values and affirm our own ideals. "America can't freelance when it suits its purposes" says Zacharia, because then all the other emerging powers such as China, India, Brasil can also bend the rules and thus destabilize the whole world. I found the book pragmatic in its assessment of US power. Do we want to be the only superpower or an honest broker where "we share power, create coalitions, build legitimacy and define the global agenda." I venture to say, I prefer the latter.
For Living Smart I recently read the Muhammad Yunus book on Creating a World Without Poverty. Social Business and the Future of Capitalism. I was preparing for my interview with Elizabeth Vallette an Iraq war veteran and a microfinance advocate who wants to see America use its soft power as well as its hard power to influence the world. What I enjoyed most about this book is how comprehensive anti poverty programs have to be besides the microlending aspect of them to truly lift the poor out of poverty. Yunnus was the first to realize we can lend to the poor but we also have to create a social network for them to survive and thrive. Does the term we are all interconnected ring a bell?
I also read the Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: and other stories from a child psychiatrist's notebook. This book was written by Living Smart guest Dr. Bruce Perry M.D. Phd and Maia Szalavitz. The book is very well written but this is not an easy read because of the subject matter. I am still astounded at how cruel people can be with children. Dr. Perry who is the government consultant for childhood trauma in incidents such as 9/11, Branch Davidians, Columbine shootings, Katrina etc. shares the most horrific stories about traumatized children, but in the end, we learn what it takes to heal these children. Believe it or not, a permanent, loving, fully present adult can make a big difference. No therapy in the world can take the place of that. On our show Dr. Perry explains the importance of adult relationships for children. The book also introduces us to Mama P. a foster mother whose only weapon is consistent, permanent, repetitive, nurturing love.
Finally a book that is not difficult to read but is extremely uplifting by Paul Ferrini "Grace Unfolding" The art of living a Surrendered Life. It speaks for itself. Ferrini says "as we surrender to the truth of our being, we learn to relinquish the need to control our lives, figure things out, or predict the future. We let go of our judgements and interpretations and accept life the way it is."
My favorite quote in that book is "If we are going to be successful in our lives, we need to cultivate our ability to be present and alert." Basically what I get out of this little book is that we have to live the moment, the now, the present, period. Why is it so hard to do? Because we want control of our lives, well as you know, there is no such thing.
Basically Garcia, who has a lot of experience as a headhunter says we have to look at ourselves as a product or service so we have to come up with a dynamic personalized marketing program. (I guess this is better than being an object!) All I can say about this book is that it has useful information. I don't know if it works and frankly I don't want to find out, but seriously, any information that can help us stand out, I welcome.
Another book I have been reading to keep with international relations and the US role in the world is The Post American World. The author, CNN correspondent Fareed Zakaria originally from India, ends the book with a quote I am paraphrasing and I feel says a lot about the greatness of America. "For America to thrive in this new and challenging era....it should be the place that is inviting, and exciting to the young student who enters the country today as it was for me."
(This of course applies if we don't make it harder than it already is for legal immigrants to come to America, which is not the case in the latest stimulus package. )
America, I agree with Zakaria is the most universal nation in the world. (I have lived in 7 different countries and visited 50 and from my own personal experience this is a fact)
We are a nation of immigrants where people can mix, work together and share common dreams. We have values that the rest of the world envies but we have to get back to those values and affirm our own ideals. "America can't freelance when it suits its purposes" says Zacharia, because then all the other emerging powers such as China, India, Brasil can also bend the rules and thus destabilize the whole world. I found the book pragmatic in its assessment of US power. Do we want to be the only superpower or an honest broker where "we share power, create coalitions, build legitimacy and define the global agenda." I venture to say, I prefer the latter.
For Living Smart I recently read the Muhammad Yunus book on Creating a World Without Poverty. Social Business and the Future of Capitalism. I was preparing for my interview with Elizabeth Vallette an Iraq war veteran and a microfinance advocate who wants to see America use its soft power as well as its hard power to influence the world. What I enjoyed most about this book is how comprehensive anti poverty programs have to be besides the microlending aspect of them to truly lift the poor out of poverty. Yunnus was the first to realize we can lend to the poor but we also have to create a social network for them to survive and thrive. Does the term we are all interconnected ring a bell?
I also read the Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: and other stories from a child psychiatrist's notebook. This book was written by Living Smart guest Dr. Bruce Perry M.D. Phd and Maia Szalavitz. The book is very well written but this is not an easy read because of the subject matter. I am still astounded at how cruel people can be with children. Dr. Perry who is the government consultant for childhood trauma in incidents such as 9/11, Branch Davidians, Columbine shootings, Katrina etc. shares the most horrific stories about traumatized children, but in the end, we learn what it takes to heal these children. Believe it or not, a permanent, loving, fully present adult can make a big difference. No therapy in the world can take the place of that. On our show Dr. Perry explains the importance of adult relationships for children. The book also introduces us to Mama P. a foster mother whose only weapon is consistent, permanent, repetitive, nurturing love.
Finally a book that is not difficult to read but is extremely uplifting by Paul Ferrini "Grace Unfolding" The art of living a Surrendered Life. It speaks for itself. Ferrini says "as we surrender to the truth of our being, we learn to relinquish the need to control our lives, figure things out, or predict the future. We let go of our judgements and interpretations and accept life the way it is."
My favorite quote in that book is "If we are going to be successful in our lives, we need to cultivate our ability to be present and alert." Basically what I get out of this little book is that we have to live the moment, the now, the present, period. Why is it so hard to do? Because we want control of our lives, well as you know, there is no such thing.
Tuesday
Albert Einstein and the Chinese on the meaning of "Crisis"
None of us want to hear we are responsible for what is happening to the economy, our jobs, our homes, income, security, relationships etc. It is much easier to blame it on someone else, the government, the republicans, the democrats, the greedy executives, the ex husband or wife, the liars, etc. After all is said and done, we are still responsible for ourselves because no one can really save us from the vicissitudes of life. We can however control our response to what is happening around us and that's why I found what Albert Einstein, one of the greatest minds of all times said, very interesting.
"Let's not pretend that things will change if we keep doing the same things. A crisis can be a real blessing to any person, to any nation. For all crises bring progress.Creativity is born from anguish, just like the day is born form the dark night. It's in crisis that inventive is born, as well as discoveries, and big strategies. Who overcomes crisis, overcomes himself, without getting overcome. Who blames his failure to a crisis neglects his own talent, and is more respectful to problems than to solutions. Incompetence is the true crisis.The greatest inconvenience of people and nations is the laziness with which they attempt to find the solutions to their problems. There's no challenge without a crisis. Without challenges, life becomes a routine, a slow agony. There’s no merit without crisis. It's in the crisis where we can show the very best in us. Without a crisis, any wind becomes a tender touch. To speak about a crisis is to promote it. Not to speak about it is to exalt conformism. Let us work hard instead.Let us stop, once and for all, the menacing crisis that represents the tragedy of not being willing to overcome it."
So basically what we need to find is the blessings in disguise, the blessings in the crisis. We are supposed to learn from them. Ask ourselves where is the lesson. Here is what the Chinese say about crisis.
Not everyone agrees this is what the Chinese really meant but the word "crisis" in some Chinese circles means "danger" and "opportunity."
Let's face it, what we are facing seems dangerous but in my circles we say when one door closes, another one opens. Let me share an example. When I lost my job years ago, this is the opportunity that opened up for me.
1. I got time to network and meet new people.
2. I had time to work out and get back in shape.
3. I learned to be frugal with my money because I was running out of it.
4. I got creative on how to socialize: Pic nic's and cooking my own food instead of going out to eat.
5. I had more time to spend with friends and family.
6. I realized this can happen to anyone and became more understanding and compassionate.
7. I had to move in with my parents and had more quality time with them than I ever had. I was
older and more mature, therefore more open to them.
Last but not least. I always say the Cubans are some of the most creative people on the planet. Why is that? Under the Communist system, Cubans have lacked basic things. They have thus learned to fix things with what they have, to think out of the box, to plant their own gardens etc. They have had to be tremendously creative to survive. They have lived in crisis for a long time, and I think when they finally open up their system, they will quickly thrive. Again, I ask the question what can we learn from all of this? How do we Live Smart? How will this crisis enhance our creativity and innovation?
"Let's not pretend that things will change if we keep doing the same things. A crisis can be a real blessing to any person, to any nation. For all crises bring progress.Creativity is born from anguish, just like the day is born form the dark night. It's in crisis that inventive is born, as well as discoveries, and big strategies. Who overcomes crisis, overcomes himself, without getting overcome. Who blames his failure to a crisis neglects his own talent, and is more respectful to problems than to solutions. Incompetence is the true crisis.The greatest inconvenience of people and nations is the laziness with which they attempt to find the solutions to their problems. There's no challenge without a crisis. Without challenges, life becomes a routine, a slow agony. There’s no merit without crisis. It's in the crisis where we can show the very best in us. Without a crisis, any wind becomes a tender touch. To speak about a crisis is to promote it. Not to speak about it is to exalt conformism. Let us work hard instead.Let us stop, once and for all, the menacing crisis that represents the tragedy of not being willing to overcome it."
So basically what we need to find is the blessings in disguise, the blessings in the crisis. We are supposed to learn from them. Ask ourselves where is the lesson. Here is what the Chinese say about crisis.
Not everyone agrees this is what the Chinese really meant but the word "crisis" in some Chinese circles means "danger" and "opportunity."
Let's face it, what we are facing seems dangerous but in my circles we say when one door closes, another one opens. Let me share an example. When I lost my job years ago, this is the opportunity that opened up for me.
1. I got time to network and meet new people.
2. I had time to work out and get back in shape.
3. I learned to be frugal with my money because I was running out of it.
4. I got creative on how to socialize: Pic nic's and cooking my own food instead of going out to eat.
5. I had more time to spend with friends and family.
6. I realized this can happen to anyone and became more understanding and compassionate.
7. I had to move in with my parents and had more quality time with them than I ever had. I was
older and more mature, therefore more open to them.
Last but not least. I always say the Cubans are some of the most creative people on the planet. Why is that? Under the Communist system, Cubans have lacked basic things. They have thus learned to fix things with what they have, to think out of the box, to plant their own gardens etc. They have had to be tremendously creative to survive. They have lived in crisis for a long time, and I think when they finally open up their system, they will quickly thrive. Again, I ask the question what can we learn from all of this? How do we Live Smart? How will this crisis enhance our creativity and innovation?
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